Abuse And Divorce
I have read an internet article in which it is explained that Paul Otieno Deya, son of a preacher, stabbed his son, slashed his wife’s throat, and then tried to kill himself. This all happened because his wife had demanded a separation from him. It is a horrible fact that in every society many people are suffering and even dying due to spousal violence. I am sure many people who apply for a divorce in BC can narrate many incidents of spousal abuse.
Some people simply believe that they have all the right to behave harshly and abusively towards their spouses and children. An abusive spouse can make married life miserable and intolerable. Abuses can be in the form of verbal thrashing, physical assaults, and emotional battering. Usually, people use abusive behavior against family members to gain power and control over the family.
Words can be sharper than swords. A few words can make a person’s life worse than hell. We may be able to forgive and forget even the worst physical torture, but the emotional scars and mental damage caused by sharp and malicious words will always remain in our minds. Verbal abuse typically involves yelling, calling names, using insulting and belittling words, and making threatening comments.
Physical violence is usually associated with domestic violence. It has both physical and mental consequences. Physical abuse takes place in the form of hitting, kicking, hair pulling, shoving, and any other violent acts that cause physical pain and injury to the victim. Sometimes, physical abuse can become very serious and dangerous.
Emotional abuse is nothing but punishing a person emotionally and psychologically. The scars created by emotional abuse are always very deep and disastrous. Emotional abuse can be in the form of neglecting emotionally, denying emotional needs, terrorizing psychologically, and hurting self-esteem. Unlike physical violence, it will be very difficult to identify emotional abuse. Even the victims do not realize that they are being emotionally abused.
Abuse, in any nature, can destroy a person’s self-respect and self-confidence. Both physical and psychological abuse can cause many devastating effects in the abused person’s life. Spousal abuse is considered as valid reason for divorce. Many people who get divorce in BC are victims of either emotional or physical abuse. I think they should celebrate their divorce as they are escaping from a life that has given them nothing, but pains, sufferings, and humiliations.